"Sometimes its not by holding on but by letting go we can truly show how much we love a person." - Unknown Author

All too often, lovers get caught up in the trap; the one where obsession becomes the name of the game. Obsession creates negative attitudes like jealousy, hatred, anger, fear and even guilt, all of which leads to depression, resentment, disappointment and a general sense of hopelessness. Some times they even cause physical ailments that can be damaging to both parties.

The end result of these is usually a breakup. Those who seem to understand relationships will let it go at that point. Typical examples of famous relationships that ended amicably are those of the Cruses. That is Penelope Cruz and Tom Cruise. Another typical example is that of Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt. Who could have thought those two were separable. But these are people who seem to have mastered the art of human relationship and know when to call it quits. It takes a very high level of maturity to accomplish such feats.

On the other side of the coin are the likes of Chris Brown and Rehanna who allowed things to go out of control before realizing the writing on the wall. Prince Charles is visiting Canada at this moment with the love of his life. Everything looks so perfect that it is hard to believe that he was once married to somebody else.

So, sometimes, it is definitely much better to let go, than to try to hold on. Relationships between human beings are the foundation for the family unit, and if properly nurtured can be the basis for a truly peaceful society that everyone seems to desire but have no clue how to get. Relationships at all and any cost however is something that causes untold damage to the fabric of our society.

Love is good, marriage is better, but the ability to know from the outset that these way of life are not carved in stone is the true mark of a caring and selfless human being.

"Love is voluntary. One can never dictate to another who to love." - Unknown Author

Love is like the forces of magnetism. It possesses very powerful binding characteristics, but it is on the other hand constantly changing. Magnetism is a typical natural force. It expands and contracts. It changes poles at a definite degree of predictable regularity.

Love too is a force which direction of motion can be predicted with a certain degree of precision. Human interactions however are totally different and not always in phase with the laws of nature that apparently governs our emotional responses.

A movie like Fatal Attraction is a typical example of how love can turn around and become a source of great pain. Unfortunately, incidents in this movie palls in severity compared to what goes on in real life.

As human beings we should begin to learn how to go with the flow of natural laws not the flow of our egocentric persona.

Most cultures around the planet prearrange marriages as early as eight years of age of the prospective couples. These kind of marriages are obviously not based on the principles of love or even living with a free will. Most other advanced cultures arrange marriages of convenience for a variety of reasons, only to find these marriages ending in the dump, creating a trail of woes in its wake. Most 'girl meet boy' marriages too last for some time seemingly indivisible, only to suddenly crack up one day with no apparent rationale.

In all, only a few couplings survive the carelessness with which many people construct a life that is supposed to last a lifetime. Our love lives need to be constructed on a very strong foundation just like the Egyptian Pyramids, or even the tall skyscrapers that dot our cities - not including of course the World Trade Center.

Dictating to anyone, who to or not to love is a very negative force - kind of like an eddy current in a magnetic core - that works against the very core value of the stable family unit that marriages are supposed to represent. It is no wonder that the society is corrupted from inside out.

Usually there are just a few bad apples in a big basket of recently harvested apples according to the laws of nature. According to man made laws of marriage the good apples are difficult to find in the midst of a large number of rotten apples.

Perhaps, things can be a lot different, if love can be voluntary, rather than imposed.

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"Who, Being Loved Is Poor" - Oscar Wilde

In his tribute to Michael Jackson, Uri Geller mentioned that he once asked the King Of Pop if he was a lonely man and without any hesitation Michael replied that he was a very lonely man.

One of Michael Jackson's greatest woes was not finding true love. He may have been materially rich, but in realty he was emotionally very poor. The love showered on him by his fans did not have the effect it should have because he did not have someone close to him to share it with.

He was the one
In the great crowd
That everyone loved
But own him no one dared

He was the one
Who the seven seas wandered
In search of a heart of gold
But his soul he almost damned

He was the one
Lost and wandering in the desert
Looked for water to quench his thirst
But only found the salinate

"Absence makes the heart grow fonder" - William Shakespeare

You cannot appreciate
The value of water
Until you wander
For days on end in the desert

To you fire is just
Another source of energy
Waiting to brew your synergy
You mind, only when it's lost

The best things in life are free
So is the air you breathe
Should Shylock its source dominate
Men of goodwill will cease to be

Rough, tough, tumbling, but jaunty Earth
One and only home to the species
Should it veer off into the abyss
Her best mates will forever be lost

Love is what we are made to crave
Like the farthest stars
Like the deepest waters
Like the finest grave

"Love is a promise, love is a souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it disappear." - John Lennon

Love, like a good shepherd is very hard to come by. It is like a rare element which exists only for transient moments. You can give it, or you can receive it like a blessing. But you cannot take it. If you are given love, receive it with trepidation and keep it with the utmost zeal. Guard it with all your being and do not let it fade away.

"Rather Than Love, Than Money, Than Fame, Give Me Truth." - Henry David Thoreau

Truth is great, but not absolute

There are varying degrees of truth

And many times, truth is relative

One man's truth is another man's blasphemy

Fame is our ego rearing its ugly head

Competition makes us thrive

Quest for fame pushes us to the top

Above the noise, the multitude, the crass, the uncultivated

Our foundation, or friends may keep us there

Money is a means of exchange

For our goods and services

Also an over glorified source of pleasure

Adored and worshipped by us all

To live with or without it

Is a choice an individual 

Must make by themselves

Love is a bond

An everlasting bond if properly tied

It is tested, tried and TRUE

It is either black or white

Not a varying shades of grey

"Love is like war: Easy to begin, but very hard to stop." - H. L. Menken

"Love is like war: Easy to begin, but very hard to stop." - H. L. Menken



This postulate by H. L. Mencken is thought provoking. But is love really easy to begin? I thought about it and concluded that LOVE unlike war is hard to begin, but easy to stop.

My conclusion is based on some basic facts like:

• The number of suitors you have to go through before you find an ideal partner.
• The length of time and effort it takes to court your ideal partner.
• The sacrifices you have to make to accommodate your in-laws.
• The rate of divorce - more than one in three marriages is doomed to fail in Canada

Mencken was born in 1880, so his idea was probably true during his time. I wonder what he will think of our age if he can transport himself through time to observe current lifestyles.

"Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies." - Aristotle

When two equal but opposite forces thrive in a synchronized environment, with the least amount of friction, Aristotle's idea of love being composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies suddenly becomes realistic.

This is love in its most ethereal form. It is a universal concept that encompasses virtually all kinds of love that one can think of and its scope is endless.